Recipe for success

Will Lukang, PMP, CSM, CLDC

The purpose of this blog post is to share my experience in my over 22 years in the Information Technology (IT) industry.    The goal is elicit readers to ask themselves what they are willing to do to be successful through better career management.

When I think of career management and how to better explain it in simple terms, all I can think of is a recipe.   A recipe is the outcome or end state that is an amalgamation of all of the ingredients.   So, I’m calling this blog post a recipe for success.    I’ll try identifying and explaining the different ingredients that I learned along the way.

What are the ingredients for the recipe for success?

1)      Discipline – this is in my mind the most important ingredient.   Discipline is an orderly pattern of behavior in which we have a self control over how we want to conduct ourselves.    This starts by understanding your core values and making decisions based on how it aligns to your core values.

2)      Work hard – making sure that you earn the day’s pay is an important concept.  It meant making sure that you’re doing the right thing and working and not spending time on things unrelated to your work.    It is putting forth your best effort at all times no matter if you want the work or not.   It is important to learn that there should be no work beneath us.  Because if we start thinking that we are better than the work we are asked to do, we’ll stop being an effective team player.

3)      Integrity – be authentic and be accountable for your actions.   Commit to doing the right thing regardless if anyone is watching.    Ensure that your actions are in alignment with your core values.

4)      Be positive – no matter how hard the challenge that you face.  Don’t let it wear you down, and keep on pushing forward.   Focus on the positive side of every situation.  By doing so, you’ll see things differently.

5)      Be Proactive – means that you show initiative to want to do more if you have some bandwidth.  Also, it means that you ask for more work, assuming you completed your work ahead of time.  Seek to learn new things in order to help you grow.

6)      Team player – remember that in order for you to be successful, everyone working on the project also needs to get their job done.   If you have bandwidth, offer your time to help others.   One person cannot do it alone, teamwork is necessary to get the job done.

7)      Plan – if you don’t have a plan, you’ll be working for someone else’s plan.    Also you would not know if you’re on track or not.  Make a plan, work based on your plan and track and adjust your plan accordingly.

8)      Network – connect with others and establish a good relationship.   The relationship established will go a long way.  Make sure that every interaction you have is a positive one.   Respect others and demonstrate that you care about the people around you.  Focus on making a meaningful connection beyond just being connected on Twitter and LinkedIn.   Reach out to them and connect and interact with the people on your network.

9)      Mentor – seek mentors who can help you accelerate your learning.   Also, pay it forward and mentor others in your organization and community.

10)   Embrace the change – change, like death and taxes, is certain to happen.  In fact, change is expected to happen and your ability to adapt to change is crucial to your success.

11)   Play – as you work hard it is important to realize that you also need to enjoy and relax and unwind.  You need to recharge to enable you to sustain your performance.  Just like an engine, it needs maintenance to keep it running smoothly.   Determine when to take that downtime to refresh and help you refocus.

12)   Learn something new – there is a saying that you cannot do business tomorrow with the same tools you use today.   Commit to continuous improvement by learning new things over time.  Sharpening your saw is essential to your success.

13)   Focus on long-term results – instant gratification brought about a whole set of problems as exhibited in the financial industry.  Greed took over and a lot of short-sighted decisions were made that caused the economic downfall.    When we map out our career plan, we need to focus on the long term goals (between 3 to 5 years) and devise a plan to accomplish that goal.

In my opinion, the top five ingredients are integrity, discipline, being proactive, working hard and passion.   The other ingredients can be added accordingly.   It is worth noting that our career is a marathon, or perhaps an ultra marathon, and not a sprint.  Therefore we need to be able to sustain a level of performance over time.    Consistency and commitment to continuously developing and retooling your skills will help you attain your goal.

Do not lose sight of your career goal and dream.   Our dream is the target that we need to focus on.   Focus on chasing your dream and making it happen.    In closing, think long term and act swiftly and make things happen.

How To Get Over Overwhelm by Jackie Yun

Guest Post By Jackie Yun  @JackieYunTweets

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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“Jackie will have a full report and recommendation for a financial and accounting system on your desk in 2 weeks”.

That was the confident voice of my boss’ boss.  I had no such confidence.  I had no clue how to start, what to do.  I was just a programmer, not a senior business analyst, not a manager.  I had no background in finance or accounting, unless a couple of classes in college counted.  I was just a few years into my professional life.  Back then, there wasn’t much on the Internet, nor was Internet access easy.

Shaky, sweaty and hunched down.  I felt overwhelmed.  While there was no Staples® Easy Button™ to push to meet this or any challenge, I did discover that there are things I could do to get over the overwhelm.

Make Your Environment Work For You > Not Against You.

When my boss came to my cubicle to find out about the meeting, I was so stressed that I burst into tears.  With a comforting hand on my shoulder, he sent me home.

His actions were precisely what was needed.  In her book, The Power of Place, Winifred Gallagher tells us that “our environments are not just backdrops to our lives — they affect how we think, feel and act”.  She cites Roger Barker, founder of environmental psychology, who further clarifies: “once the environmental particulars of a modus operandi work their way into our nervous system, they help close our minds to better options and incline us toward knee-jerk reactions.”

In other words, when you’re overwhelmed, just getting out of your current surroundings, where the negative triggers are located, can change your perspective.

Going home isn’t always an option.  Instead, go to a nearby coffee shop or book store, take a stroll in the park, or even go down to the cafeteria and grab a snack.  If you can’t go somewhere, use the Internet to your advantage and let great photography take you away from those negative triggers for a few minutes.  I love the sunrise pictures Leia Cator (@mscator) tweets.

Your Body Speaks. Help Your Body Say the Right Thing.

Christine Caldwell writes: “I feel the presence of fight/flee/freeze somewhere in my musculature and physiology.  When I isolate, I also feel my defenses. In fact, that is all I feel.” ~ from her book, Getting Our Bodies Back.

When you’re overwhelmed your body feels it and it screams that to yourself and all who see you.  How can we move our body from feeling overwhelmed to one that says it is open and ready for the challenge; not contracted, small or ill?  Use your body’s 5 senses.  Engage in yoga to re-gain flexibility, taste the warmth in a cup of tea to give you resilience, breathe in the fragrance of lavender or rosemary to give you calm or fortitude, or listen and watch Rocky Balboa in his “Gonna Fly Now” scene for the “I Can Do It” stance and feeling. Why not even get up and do that scene with Rocky?

This tweet from Tony Richards (@tonyrichards4) is a clever way of remembering the impact our body’s actions have on our psyche:

║            *Behavior wags the tail of feelings.*

Stop Your Mind From Reaching The Red Zone.

The Dog Whisperer, Cesar Milan, tells owners to make early corrections for their recalcitrant dogs. Past a certain point, the dog won’t heed anything you say or do, his mind is in the Red Zone.  Humans can be like that, too.

Before your mind reaches “The Red Zone of Overwhelm” try settling into meditation (something that leaders should have in their toolkit as evidenced in the HBR Post, The Power of Pause, shared by Rick Ross, @RickRoss10), read poetry and find balance (Terry Del Percio, @WorkIntegrity, tweeted an NPR piece describing how poetry gives peace to the author’s life), or playfully use prompts such as @AnitaBondi’s Interplay Inspiration Deck to gain a different perspective on the situation (and no, I’m not an affiliate, but I am an Anita Bondi fan!).  If overwhelm has not completely hijacked your amygdala, try to engage logic.  Break down the challenge into smaller pieces to see where this takes you.

Reach Out – Your Relationships Can Help.

If you’re in overwhelm, your focus is narrowly centered on yourself; not surprising, given what your body and mind are doing.  Instead of looking inward, look outward.  Look to connect with your network of support.  Your network of support are the positive people who have your best interest at heart, who will uplift you and help move you forward.  Your network can be comprised of friends, relatives, mentors, coaches, colleagues or even kind strangers!  My boss and my husband each gave me learnings that I’ve kept with me throughout my career with good impact:

  • • Even though time is of the essence for almost every project, there is time to stop to recalibrate. Make sure you take that time.
  • • Figure out what you can do, then humbly without apology make your offer, their decision is not a reflection of you ~ and remember, you don’t have anything to prove.

Use The 4 Quadrants To Give You The Answers

James Flaherty, founder of New Ventures West (my professional coaching alma mater) introduced the concept of the 4 Quadrants as a way to evaluate a snapshot of a coachee’s integral state.  It’s a very revealing model when you look at someone from the perspective of their 4 quadrants: environment, body and behavior, individual consciousness (what I’ve been calling the mind), and relationships.  As we’ve seen, it is also a framework to help you get unstuck, such as when you are in overwhelm.

If you’re stuck, take the time to analyze each of these quadrants, see if you are out of balance, and then do work within those quadrants. Soon, you will be liberated and be open to the possibilities!

To Will and all you followers of Will’s blog, much gratitude to you for including me in your day’s reading.  I’d love to hear from you about how you’ve gotten over overwhelm or become unstuck.  Do you use a special framework like the 4 Quadrants?  Do you think the 4 Quadrants would be helpful to you?  Please share your feedback in the comments below. We can learn much from each other.

Jackie Yun is an Integral Coach ® and Former IT Executive.  For more information about Jackie, follow her at @JackieYunTweets