Will Lukang, CSM, PMP, CLDC
Happiness is always a by-product. It is probably a matter of temperament, and for anything I know it may be glandular. But it is not something that can be demanded from life, and if you are not happy you had better stop worrying about it and see what treasures you can pluck from your own brand of unhappiness.
When I think of happiness, it is relative to a person’s circumstances, time and state of mind. It also varies from one person to another. Some people find happiness through material things. Other finds happiness through helping others. When I was growing up, I was happy when I spent time at my parents’ convenience store, because I got to interact with the folks who buy stuff from us and the workers at the market. I also found happiness drawing and creating posters for use at school because it was a means for self-expression.
As you go through life, what makes you happy changes; it is indeed relative to a point in time or phase of your life. I find that sometimes we kind of live our life backwards. We work to earn more money and accumulate stuff to make us happy. However, it is better to find your true calling and then express your passion to achieve your goal. As I ponder this topic, I can’t help but think of what matters to us the most. I viewed that health is important and being healthy should make us happy because it enables us to do what we want.
I view a happy person as someone who can enjoy a journey with unexpected stops, but enjoy the scenery as he/she passes through. I’m often reminded that I need to put my expectations in perspective. The last time I served at St. Martin’s soup kitchen it reminded me that other people are facing problems; that a gift of a meal brings joy to them. It is a humbling experience that made me come back to keep me grounded.
As I reflect on this topic, I can’t help but think that there are people who find tremendous happiness in making others happy in spite of the grief that they themselves are going through. They put others’ welfare ahead of theirs. Mother Teresa is an inspiration for what she did. She dedicated her life to help the poor people. She founded the Missionaries of Charity with the objective of providing free service to the poorest of the poor.
These days, I’m happy when I spend time with my two daughters and wife. I’m thankful for the opportunity to be part of their activities and lying down and sharing stories with my daughters. I believe in doing random acts of kindness. A simple thank you goes a long way to putting a smile on people’s faces. Each day I count my blessings and avoid falling in the trap of complaining. Because I always remind myself that other people are going through tougher challenges than I am.
I’d like to close this post with this:
The happy have whole days,
and those they choose.
The unhappy have but hours,
and those they lose.
May you find happiness in the little things in life like taking a walk in the park. May you seize the moment and make the most of your opportunity. As my friend Judy says, “She believes that truly happy people are the ones who are thankful for what they have.”